Holidays can be difficult for those who have been in cults or abusive and controlling relationships. Memories abound both good and bad. The bad memories are just bad and the good memories....well, you just kind of feel guilty for having any positive feelings about a person who treated you so cruelly....and if you look hard enough, you may find that those good memories really weren't so good after all anyway.
It is a difficult time of year, so please be kind to those who have been spiritually, emotionally, or otherwise abused. Some may have never experienced Christmas if they were raised in an enviroment that did not observe "traditional" holidays. Help them to not feel so out of place. Help them not be the foreigner all alone in a foreign land.
And then there are people like me who are just still floundering and trying grow roots for a belief in God that exists but is fragile. Going to church may be hard. Go with us and sit next to us and don't look at us like we're crazy if we cry during the service. Just give us a tissue and sit with us quietly because the feeling of not being alone is quite powerful and healing.
Merry Christmas to you all!
May we all find joy and peace in our lives!